Before I had my son, my focus was on being pregnant and delivering a healthy baby. My concept of what would happen once we left the hospital was fuzzy. I bought some gear, asked friends for advice and queued up a sequence of family visits in the early weeks to have some help and support. But, nothing can really prepare you for life with a newborn. Your world turns upside down and you switch to survival mode. Hard to believe we're a year in now (!!), but here's what got us through The First 3 Months...
In the early days, these shirts were my favorite for easy dressing (and avoiding the belly button!), and were inexpensive enough to throw out if things got messy.
Once we developed a consistent bedtime routine, we started dressing Charley in a cozy pair of pajamas after his bath. These pajamas are hands down the softest and most comfortable.
I found that a nightly bath helped relax Charley and was a great time for us to bond as a family. We loved this tub for home, and it packs flat so it's easy for traveling as well.
This was a necessity when Charley wanted to be held, but I needed to get things done around the house. Now we use it when traveling and it's a must-have on my list.
I had visions of Charley sleeping in a beautifully designed Scandinavian bassinet, but the high price tag and short shelf life made it hard to justify. We landed on this one, which was great for road trips and super easy to put together. Charley's reflux got pretty bad around month 2, and we switched to this for sleeping because he was more comfortable sleeping at an angle.
I searched high and low for a somewhat neutral play gym knowing it would take over our living room; this was the closest I got.
Want to know what crying babies like? This thing. Gives them a cozy spot to hang out while you get things done.
I pumped so my husband could take over a feed. These bottles are my favorite because they're so easy to clean.
Gas sucks. For instant relief, get these. Your baby will thank you.
Everyone said "sleep when your baby sleeps", and so I planned on long, cozy naps. Things didn't quite work out that way, and this was a lifesaver for getting Charley to sleep during the day so I could get things done around the house.
Charley never took a pacifier and much preferred cuddling with this for naps.
It's almost impossible to recreate a tight hospital swaddle at home. These swaddles were great in the early days when we first brought Charley home from the hospital. Later, we transitioned to these when we started keeping his arms out to self soothe.
I don't have night vision, so having these in our room made middle of the night feeds easier. We also used them at the hospital since the lighting is so harsh.
Self care is a huge part of having a baby; it's nearly impossible to be a coherent parent without first taking care of yourself. A nightly bath with this was a huge part of my evening ritual.
You're going to spend a lot of time in your pajamas. I invested in a pair of PJs that made me feel good and slightly put together, even though I was a total zombie.
I call this "mother's little helper" and it's pure magic. Wouldn't look human without it.
These bras make nursing during the night a breeze and are super soft.
If anyone offers you help of any kind, take it. Delivering dinner, watching your baby while you shower, whatever it is. Take. It. The first 3 months are a huge adjustment and having help makes it that much easier.
Couldn't have done it without...